You Don’t Have to Always Hustle to Be Successful

I read a blog this morning about the behaviors of emotionally strong individuals.  Initially I asked, “what is emotional strength?”  Emotional strength is the ability to experience positive feelings.  There are some studies to suggest that certain personality traits are linked to greater emotional stability, an indicator for emotional strength (Guswell & Ruch, 2012). A particular study by Guswell and Ruch (2012) suggested there are innate characteristics that can either support or hinder a person’s ability to manage emotions.  In other words some personalities have an easier time managing emotions and remaining positive.  Although research claims it may be easier for some more than others it is not likely that only certain individuals with certain personality traits are allowed happiness.  All people are allowed happiness and all individuals can have a happy disposition despite character, experience, or previous thought patterns.

Individuals can learn emotional strength.  If you struggle with something in life you can learn to improve; you can learn to emotionally improve, as well. Your emotions do not control you.  Your thinking does not control you.  (It seems that way most of the time because turning “off” thinking and emotions is challenging).  The source behind the thinking and the emotions is YOU and the one in control of you is YOU!  I understand my posts talk a lot about choosing to be happy positive and I understand this can be very frustrating to most.  But, that truly is the issue; choice.  How you think and how you feel is up to you!  It is that simple.  The hard part is applying the skills, tools, and techniques to make that choice stick.

There are lots of tools and behaviors one can apply to increase emotional strength.  One behavior that stood out to me as a read the blog on emotional strength was ,”They (emotionally strong people) are not afraid of slowing down”.  This really stuck with me and caused me to ponder.

Emotional strength equals success.  Early research clearly demonstrated that people with an ability to evaluate their emotions, identify their emotions, and rationally handle their emotions are better able to reach and achieve goals (Allport & Allport, 1921).  To consider that emotionally strong people can slow down and relax challenged the belief that successful people are “go-getters” and “busy-bees”. Success coincides with work.  So many of us are chasing dreams, aspirations, and goals.  Motivation is inspired and we are challenged to keep going, keep pushing, and work daily to achieve success.  Then why is slowing down a sign of success and emotional strength?  How does rest and slowing down accomplish goals?

When we slow down we can LIVE.  It is so easy to be caught up in pursuing goals and achieving success and to lose sight of daily life and the little miracles that occur.  I am no exception.  My goals and aspirations in life require me to have daily goals and a daily plan.  The drive to be successful causes me to become acutely aware of my daily goals and I can spend minutes of my day, hours of my day planning, working, building, doing, and analyzing.  What happens if I just stop?  What happens if I just slow down and approach the day as it comes?

When we can slow down we are left with seconds, minutes, hours, even days for freedom and to live.

  • Slowing down means we can be content with our present moment and our present blessings.
  • Slowing down means we can be thankful for what we have.
  •  Slowing down allows us to experience love and support of family and friends.
  • Slowing down means taking a break.
  • Slow down means we have time to do something else (perhaps read a book, talk with a friend, or sit in silence).

Today I challenge you to stop!  Stop planning and stop working.  Take time away from your “to-do” list and do something else.  You do not need to always be working on something and you do not need to always be focusing on your goals.  I challenge you to take a step back, slow down, and enjoy the moment and the people you are with.  When you slow down to live you will restore your heart, your brain, and your soul.  This renewal of mind, body, and spirit will help you achieve goals, accomplish tasks, and lead you to success.




Allport, F. H., & Allport, G. W.  (1921). Personality traits: Their classification and measurement. The Journal of Abnormal Psychology and Social Psychology, 16(1), 6-40.

Guswell, A. & Ruch, W. (2012).  Are only emotional strengths emotional?  Character strength and disposition to positive emotions.  Applied Psychology: Health and Well-Being, 4(2), 218-239.

Connect Your Mind to Your Body to Experience Increased Health and Wellness

The brain and body are connected.  When the brain is not working properly the body will suffer and when the body is not working properly the brain will suffer.  We do not know what comes first, the brain or body.  What we do know is the brain and the body work together to keep a person mentally, physically, and emotionally healthy.   Research clearly demonstrates that the thoughts a person has is directly related to physical health (Goebel, Trebst, Steiner, Xie, Exton, Frede, & Canbay, 2002).  People with more positive thinking have improved health whereas individuals with negative thinking have decreased physical health (Cakirbay, Bilici, Kavakci, Cebi, Guler, & Tan, 2004).  The quality of your thinking and the thoughts that flow through your mind have the power to make you ill or to make you healthy.  Research suggests individuals with a physical health condition had an improved immune system when they had more positive thinking, as evidenced by decreased depression and increased production of cells in the immune system responsible for fighting illness and disease (Cakirbay, et al., 2004).  Millions of Americans suffer from chronic illness and millions seek treatment in order to fight illness, improve health, and feel better.  Most often illness and disease is treated with medication.  Medication is necessary and it is advised to always follow physician treatment recommendations, however, medication can have complications.  Perhaps improving the brain and the quality of thoughts in the brain can improve health and the need for medication.

Medication, as helpful as it is, is also associated with increased side effects and discomfort due to side effects.  This makes treatment compliance difficult.  Treatment non-compliance can cause symptoms to increase and make it more difficult to treat the illness in the future.  Additionally people sometimes develop tolerance to medications and they are no longer effective (CDC, 2011).  Medication is helpful and effective, however, individuals with chronic illness can also benefit by allowing the brain to heal the body.

Practicing wellness will create a healthier brain, and a healthier brain will think better, behave better, and function better.  Research supports this conclusion as well.  Studies showed that maintaining positive thinking about maintaining health behaviors, like healthy eating and regular physical activity, was related to decreased emotional  distress, improved sleep, and improved physical health symptoms (Goebel, et al., 2002; Meissner, Bingel, Colloca, Wager, Watson, & Flaten, 2011; Nicklas, You, & Pahor, 2005).  Simply thinking will change behaviors can that improve health.

People become overwhelmed with the notion of changing behavior and many find it difficult.  It can be hard to change behavior and start something new simply because the brain can be lazy, at times.  Your brain and your body are accustomed to doing things, and in order to change it requires a shift in thinking.  This shift in thinking must be intentional.  You must re-condition your brain to think positively about the new behavior change.  The brain will be more likely to develop positive thinking about the new behavior if individuals use verbal and environmental cues (Meissner, et al., 2011).  In order to change thinking a person needs to speak positive statements.  List and state out loud the positive affects of starting and maintaining the new behavior.  If the behavior change is to get more sleep (which will improve health) then list all the good things about going to sleep 1 hour earlier.  If the behavior change is to eat more fruit and vegetables write down all the good things about eating more fruits and vegetables.  Saying the things listed out loud will help motivate the behavior and cause the more positive thinking to linger. Speaking the positive benefits will convince you to engage in the new behavior.  You can be your own motivation by reminding yourself of this list and saying the things out loud over and over.

Your environment can also trigger behavior changes.  If your goal is to drink more water, have a large water bottle or jug in arms reach throughout the day.  Whenever you see the water bottle you will be reminded to drink more water.  If you want to improve sleep agree to turn down the lights in the house, turn down the volume of the TV, watch less stimulating television, and put away cell phone, computer, and other technological devices.  This will allow the body to relax and unwind and once the body is relaxed it is easier to sleep.

A change in thinking will lead to a change in behavior.  Increasing healthy behaviors will improve health.  It is possible that improving the quality of thoughts can reduce physical symptoms so that you can live a life where your physical health is only a minor concern.  If your body is not feeling well, try embracing the concept of positive thinking and enjoy healthy behaviors like increased sleep, healthy eating, physical activity (as you are able), and relaxation.  This will lead to a healthier body.  Engaging in daily healthy behaviors will improve overall health in general.  It is worth it to make a slight change in thinking to be a happier and healthier you!





Cakirbay, H., Bilici, M., Kavakci, O., Cebi, A., Guler, M., & Tan, U. (2004). Sleep quality and immune functions in rheumatoid arthritis patients with and without major depression. International Journal of Neuroscience, 114, 245-256.


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Goebel, M. U., Trebst, A. E., Steiner, J., Xie, Y. F., Exton, M., S., Frede, S. (2002).Behavioral conditioning of immunosuppression is possible in humans. The Journal of the Federation of American Societies for Experimental Biology, 16(14), 1869-1873.


Meissner, K., Bingel, U., Colloca, L., Wager, T., Watson, A., & Flaten, M. (2011). The placebo effect: Advances from different methodological approaches. The Journal of Neuroscience, 31(45), 16117-16124.


Nicklas, B., You, T., & Pahor, M. (2005). Behavioural treatments for chronic systemic inflammation: Effects of dietary weight loss and exercise training. Canadian Medical Association Journal, 172(9), 1199-1209.